Grieving happens when you lose someone or something that you love and rely on/ or are “attached to” Attachment is “wantingness”, the feeling that you “must have”, “can’t stand to be without”, or “feel alone, abandoned, and lost without. ” If you are not attached or feel that you cannot stand to be without them you will not get stuck in your grief. You may be sad and miss the one (thing) you have lost and may grieve for a while, but it will pass. The grief that stays is “the feeling that there is no happiness possible without that person or thing.” It frequently has feelings of regret attached to it, feelings that “I should have spent more time with them”, “I should have done more for or with them” or ” I should have been more careful”. Sometimes there is guilt, and a feeling of responsibility for the loss that goes beyond regret. Other times there are dependency feelings, thoughts and feelings like “I can’t survive without them”. “Wantingness” is a powerful energy. It is what the Buddha called the greatest cause of man’s suffering. Fortunately the energy of “wantingness” can be disconnected from as can guilt and dependence. When that happens the grieving person is free to experience calm and happiness again.
Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, cultural, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to that loss.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering one feels when something or someone the individual loves is taken away. The grief associated with death is familiar to most people, but individuals grieve in connection with a variety of losses throughout their lives, such as unemployment, ill health or the end of a relationship. Loss can be categorized as either physical or abstract, the physical loss being related to something that the individual can touch or measure, such as losing a spouse through death, while other types of loss are abstract, and relate to aspects of a person’s social interactions.