In the process of developing A4M I learned why emotional problems occur. Each person of is born with a particular temperament. This temperament is the initial template upon which our emotional being is based. It is something we inherit, not develop. Our temperament pushes us in particular directions.
Emotional problems begin with a single definable event which is tied to our temperament. While there many be many similar events that occur the first is the most important. It be found to permanently get rid of the problem. Most people do not know what event started their problem. If you do not know when your emotional problem began it is almost impossible to free yourself from it. Most people who have PTSD, grief, and depression know the event when their problem began. They know what to focus on. They focus on it without the need for a therapist’s guidance. This allows me to help them without ever meeting them.
The Mind is a collection of energetic processes that are driven and organized by emotions . If the emotions are too intense they can cause permanent and disabling shifts in our consciousness. Let me explain more.
The Mind is an infinitely complex energetic processor of data. Like a computer the it can run any software loaded into it. All Minds have the same basic computer, a brain. We only differ in the software we have available to process information. In its complexity the Mind does many things. It simultaneously categorizes, prioritizes, contextualizes. It interprets information. It does this while retrieving and matching memories. All of this happens within the context of animal instincts and emotions. The result of the Mind is one’s experience of life.
The complexity of the Mind adds to the difficulty in determining the cause or reason for an upset. Our judgments and beliefs limit the specific thoughts that arise in our Mind. In effect, the experience of various emotions leads to attracting related thoughts. This in turn increase the amplitude of the underlying emotion and frame of our awareness. The process is compounded by the Minds tendency to project its own views and “truth” on to others. Every life perspective has its own self verifying truth. Each perspective has its own predefined capacity for perception and comprehension.
All Minds use the same energetic processes to create individual reality. No thought, feeling, reaction, or experience we have arises outside of an energy field. It provides continuity of the personality. We remember the past, and use it to understand our current situation. We use it to anticipate the future. We Judge both people and things as better or worse. Another process involved is projection, a fundamental aspect of the developing consciousness of the child. Children only know what is in their own Minds. They believe that others think and experience the same thing that they do. For the child the world is totally self reflective. That everyone feels or should feel the same way they do (everyone is like me!) is a childish perspective, but one that underlies much of human perception and reactions. It is a problem of poorly developed boundaries. Unclear delineations of what the other person knows and feels and what you know and feel.
To summarize, all of our problems have reasons or causes. As a matter of simple fact nothing occurs in the Mind without a reason or cause. The Mind is like a TV. Without any stations to tune into nothing happens. Tune it in and all kinds of things can happen. Certain life events set up “preset stations” in our Mind’s TV. To stop watching to a preset station you must know when the station became set in the Mind. It is always essential that you find the cause(s) and/or reason(s) behind any emotional thought or reaction you are working on. Without disconnecting or eliminating the cause(s) and reason(s) behind them problems only return.