In the process of developing A4M I learned why emotional problems occur. All emotional problems begin with a single, definable, event. While there many be many similar events that occur the first is the most important and must be found to permanently get rid of the problem. Most people do not know what event started their problem. With PTSD, grieving, and depression it situation is different. Almost always the sufferer knows the event that started their emotional reaction. Knowing the event they can focus on it and experience the same emotions that are necessary to let go of it. If you do not know when your emotional problem began it is almost impossible to free yourself from it. Because most people who have PTSD, grief, and depression know the exact event when their problem began, they know what to focus on, and can focus on it without the need for a therapist’s guidance. This allows me to help them without ever meeting them.
The Mind is a collection of energetic processes that are driven and organized by emotions . If the emotions are too intense they can cause permanent and disabling shifts in our consciousness. Let me explain more.
PTSD is a flaw in perception that becomes embedded in the Mind when the PTSD trauma is experienced. When the trauma occurs, thoughts, sights, sound, and feelings become mixed together with the feelings of terror, anger, rage, and or helplessness/guilt. The anticipation of the trauma sends a shock wave of energy that overwhelms the energetic processing capacity of the Mind; it causes a short circuit, a “glitch”, causing the weird reaction patterns that are part of PTSD symptoms. It is as if a whole is torn in the fabric of reality that you fall into. When you get rid of the glitch the problem is over. The cause for PTSD is quite different than the causes for grieving and depression.
Grieving happens when you lose someone or something that you love and rely on or are “attached to”. Attachment is “wantingness”, the feeling that you”must have”, “can’t stand to be without”, or feel alone, abandoned, and lost without. If you are not attached or feel that you cannot stand to be without them you will not get stuck in your grief. You may be sad and miss the one (thing) you have lost and may grieve for a while, but it will pass. The grief that stays is the feeling that there is no happiness possible without that person or thing. It frequently has feelings or regret attached to it, feelings that “I should have spent more time with them”, “I should have done more for or with them”, ” or “I should have been more careful”. “Wantingness” is a powerful energy. It is what the Buddha called the greatest cause of man’s suffering. Fortunately the energy of “wantingness” can be disconnected from and then the grieving person is free to experience calm and happiness again.
Although some of the symptoms are similar and depressive symptoms may accompany grief or PTSD, the genesis of depression is quite different. While depression has been previously called “anger turned inward” by psychologists and psychiatrists, it is really the result of an emotional injury in which we loose value in our own eyes. There is always a sense of shame at the source of depression: the shame arises from a belief that we have failed and are not good enough to create our own value. Our shame can lead to an anger or fear at self for what we have done or failed to do. Anger can be interpreted by the depressed person in many ways, and can be accompanied by feelings of fatigue and weakness, the person may experience a “mental breakdown” and/or a physical collapse when this occurs. The fear side of depression usually something to do with thoughts that “I am a failure and cannot/will not be respected, I am not like others and can do nothing about it”. The fear is typically that because we have failed we will not be loved or respected by others.
The key to getting rid of depression is to focus on the event when you believed that you failed and saw yourself as worthless. Once the Mind to tuned out of the energy of seeing believing that you are a failure the depression lifts. If depression accompanies PTSD or grieving when the energy of grief or PTSD distortions are gone the sense of self failure also leaves and with it their depressive symptoms.