I try to write my problem exactly.

More than two weeks ago when its started, I have a problem with sleeping.

I am doing tele-work from home; but these times when I have to work much from the real working place(where the work-station is it) – not from home; and there is the problem to me.
To leave my wife and baby too hard to me and maybe I am excited because of another things but I can not sleep at all when I have to work from the centre.

I am just turning from one side to another all night long and my mind can not stop(can not relax).
And the next day I am K.O like the loser boxer certainly with other physical symptoms (headache, constant sleepiness, surging stomach, chest pain, etc.)…
Maybe it is a panic from the work or lose control above the life, etc. – I do not know.

If there is anything that could help me from acupuncture4themind or any AFT formula please tell me.

Now there is the only one income from my work; because my wife is with the baby.

Please suggest me something good.

Thank you.

Best Regards,
Attila

Hi Attila

It is good to hear from you, even though you have a problem. Luckily I think that your problem can be solved.

I suspect that you are feeling guilty because you see yourself as failing in your responsibilities to your wife and new baby. It is something that in A4M I call “Covert (or hidden) self-blame”. It is a fear that things are not well, not as they should be in your home, and that you are responsible, that you are neglecting your wife and baby. It will make you feel bad and fill you with worry that stops your sleep.

This is what I think you should do:

First you will need to play A4M module 1, topic 4, and focus on your bad feelings that you must leave your family in order to support them, your feelings that you are failing as a husband and father.

After you have finished with module 1, topic 4, go to module 4, topic 2. Take your feelings of anxiety, your feelings that you are screwing up, making a mistake, or failing to do what you should be doing, and play module 4, topic 2. Do it several times if necessary, and see if you do not calm down and find that you are able to sleep better. If you find that your sleep improves, but you are still exhausted even after sleeping, play module 6 topic1, and focus on any feelings you have that you are disappointing your wife and neglecting your baby. It will probably be an anger at yourself, that you have or are doing something bad.

Let me know how you make out.

Dr Kurt Ebert

Dear Dr. Kurt,

I am doing the topics for 2 days what you suggested to me.

The result is fantastic:

After the first day I could sleep more than 6 hours and the 2nd day was the same.

It was completely enough for me.

This is my 3rd day and after writing a letter I will do these topic also.

Thank you for your great help again.

Respects,

Attila.